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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS AND OTHER INFORMATION.
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These are the questions I've seen asked often on both this and other
newsgroups, or those I've asked myself when I first got into this wonderful
world. I've compiled the answers from all over, and put it all together -
this is the result.
1. Questions and answers
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What is a fetish and what is fetishism?
Well, according to Websters Unabridged Encyclopedic Dictionary,
(1989 edition) the definitions are as follows:
Fet-ish:
1. An object regarded with awe as being the embodiment or
habitation of a potent spirit or ashaving magical
potency.
2. Any object, idea etc., eliciting unquestioning
reverence, respect, or devotion.
3. (Psychology). Any object, part of the body etc., that,
although not of a sexual nature, causes an erotic
response or fixation.
Also spelled 'fetich'.
Fet-ish-ism:
1. Belief in, or use of fetiches.
2. (Psychiatry). The compulsive use of some object or part
of the body as a stimulus in the course of attaining
sexual gratification.
3. Blind devotion.
Also spelled 'fetichism'.
For our use it is clearly the definitions 2 and 3 (for 'fetish')
and 2 plus perhaps 3 (for 'fetishism') that is relevant, the
object being some form of clothing, outfit or footwear.
Who are wearing fetish fashion?
All kinds of people! - There's secretaries, editors, presidents,
housewives, students, workmen, politicians, models and even
unemployed among those known to enjoy the fashions. Perhaps you're
next?
When do people wear their fetish fashions?
Often to fetish parties or while engaging in a scene at home. Some
wears something along with regular clothing on a daily basis, just
to 'stay in touch' with their fetish.
My site doesn't carry alt.sex.fetish.fashion - How can I participate in
the discussions?
Check out the "How to Receive Banned Newsgroups" FAQ, avaliable in
alt.censorship, alt.comp.acad-freedom.talk, alt.internet.services,
news.misc, alt.answers, and news.answers. It gives all sorts of
ways you can access newsgroups not otherwise avaliable at your
site.
Is this document available on WWW as a true html-document?
YES! - If you're reading this via WWW, you're reading it! - If
you're reading this via Usenet, it's available as this URL:
http://login.dknet.dk/~pg/WWW/FAQ/contents.html
What is the WWW?
The World-Wide Web, a hypertext-based multimedia information
system. Please consult the newsgroup comp.infosystems.www or the
FAQ for this newsgroup for any other or additional information.
Are there any sites on the WWW that carry fetish fashion oriented
pictures?
Check out my fetish fashion page at URL:
http://login.dknet.dk/~pg/WWW/fetish.html !
Is it true that high heels damage the foot?
No, not when we're talking quality footwear and healthy feet. All
footwear may cause damage to the feet if too small or too badly
designed. High heels are no exception, but studies even show that
it actually may be healthy (better) to wear heels in the range
2"-3" than to wear flats!
Lani Teshima-Miller writes:
The problem is not with feet--it's with your back and
your posture. High heels throw your whole spine out of
whack because of the way it makes you stand--makes it
curve differently. I think it used to lead to sore backs
for me.
Why do some women (and men) enjoy (or even prefer) to wear high heels?
Ask them! - No, seriously, it may be that they both find them
comfortable and enjoy what they're doing to the posture. There can
be no doubt that high heels enhance both the legs and the overall
posture and this makes the appearance much more sexy. And sex is
power...
Do some women really find high heels to be comfortable?
Yes! - Most prefer more ordinary heel heights like 3", but some
find higher heels even more preferable, and some even find 5"
heels to be comfortable! Some even wear 6" heels on a regular
basis, although those are more often to be found in connection
with a scene - worn in the bedroom.
Even 7" heels exist, but these are rarely seen.
Can excessive wearing of high heels in any way be damaging?
Yes, but in no way permanent. Non-stop wear can cause a shortening
of the tendons in the back of the legs, causing pain when wearing
heels lower than usual. Ignoring this pain can damage the tendon
permanently, but the condition can be cured by wearing slightly
lower and lower heels for an extended period. Some of the people
suffering from this problem chose to handle it by wearing high
heels all the time, and the story of one of these, Jessica, a 24
year old woman, can be found at the end of this section of the
FAQ.
It is a die-hard myth that all high heels damage the foot. This is
not true! - Badly designed (cheap) heels might cause corns or
worse, but well-designed, well-fitting high heels DOES NOT damage
anything when worn even on a daily basis, as long as the feet gets
to rest at least during the sleep period or similar (the feet
needs shoeless rest). Fanatic 24h wear is another story...
Is there anything important to know when starting to wear high heels?
Lani Teshima-Miller writes:
There is one very important thing to remember about high
heels and starting to wear them, is that many people
don't have trained ankles. You have to first learn how
to walk in them, learn how not to wobble (by training
your balance and ankles), and learn how to react when
you happen to bend your ankle. I used to do this A LOT
but never sprained it because I'd worn high heels all
the time. But if your ankle's not used to it, watch out!
How do I get my girlfriend to wear high heels (or boots or clogs) more
often, particularly in the bedroom?
Ms. Margo writes:
First good thing to try is to ask her, but not when
you're already in bed. Try some evening after dinner, "I
really think you have beautiful legs and feet. I would
love it if you would wear heels to bed some time." It's
always easier if the other person feels that they are
giving you a gift rather than being pressured into doing
something that might make them uncomfortable. Buy her a
really nice pair of heels. Well made, and unfortunately
expensive, shoes will fit better and be much more
comfortable than the $20 "all man made materials"
throwaways that most shoe stores carry. I have a pair of
extremely expensive thigh-high leather boots that fit
perfectly. I can be on my feet all night, either at home
or out at an event like ManRay, and my feet don't hurt.
Shoe pads are good. The little Dr. Scholls (sp?) pads
for the balls of the feet will make any high heels more
comfortable. More comfortable = worn more often!
Other good tricks are to rub the feet with hand lotion
and go to bed with cotton socks on. Three nights in a
row of this will make even my 6" heels comfortable for a
full evening. Exercise will help to stretch the tendons
in the ankles and calves. A good one is just to walk on
your toes for a bit each day. Another good one is one
skiers do - put your toes on the edge of a phonebook
with your heels hanging off, raise and lower your heels
stretching gently. If she is walking in high heels on a
pile rug, offer your arm for support. Many women feel
"unstable" in high heels and the extra support is
comforting.
To get her into bed with the shoes on, you might just
try carrying her to the bed while she is dressed, and
removing everything but the shoes. If all else fails,
you could always go for the bondage shoe straps which
lock the heels on, but I suspect this would freak her
out worse than the shoes.
Talk to her if she seems uncomfortable about your
requests. Find out exactly what makes her feel
uncomfortable and help her with those issues. Many women
have been raised to see this kind of behavior as
"kinky", "sick", or "slutty". Assure her that whatever
makes two people happy is just fine. Assure her that you
hold her in the highest respect and don't question her
virtue. Assure her that you want to be perfectly honest
with her, rather than hiding your desires from her.
And last, but not least, compliment her if she does wear
heels for you. Best of luck in your quest. A love for
high heels is a wonderful, abet expensive, joy.
My brand new patent leather high heels seem too tight in the toes and
too wide in the heel - What do I do?
Jeffrey Hurwit writes:
Patent leather stretches a little eventually, as does
any shoe material. Also, the material is of course new,
so consequently a bit stiff. Once you put a few "miles"
on them, they should soften up and have more give. If
these were plain leather (not patent), I'd recommend
neetsfoot oil to accelerate the softening process. But
the patent finish would be impervious to it, and the oil
(if applied from inside the vamp) could damage the
finish. I would suggest (unless it's too late) that you
spend several hours with them on carpeted floors to make
sure that they'll work out, so that you can return them
if they don't.
Noire writes:
I put double half-sole cushions in the bottom, right
under the ball of the foot where the most pressure (and
pain) builds. The pads take up enough space that the
shoes fit fairly comfortably and they also keep my feet
from sliding forward. I'd recommend using them for any
heels.
I've comfortably worn shoes that were this tight in the toes, but never
such high heels. Does that make a difference?
Jeffrey Hurwit writes:
In my experience it does-- the higher heels tend to
shift your weight more to the balls of your feet. Your
feet will also tend to slide forward, putting more
pressure on your toes.
Ms. Margo writes:
Yes it does, since most of your weight will be on the
balls of your feet and that's a lot of pressure on your
toes. If all else fails, go to a dance shop and buy some
lambswool (which they sell for toe shoes) to wrap around
your toes to prevent blisters.
Do you have any tips on learning how to walk in high heels?
Jeffrey Hurwit writes:
Ankle training and ankle strength are very important, or
you could twist an ankle and seriously hurt yourself. I
found that walking (and hiking), bicycle riding, and ice
skating all helped. Balance is of course important.
Think of a line, like the blade of an ice skate, under
the mid- dle of your foot from heel to toe, and try to
center your weight over it for each foot as you walk.
Experiment with your posture to balance your weight
between your heels and the balls of your feet, first
while standing still, then while walking. You'll
probably want something or someone handy to help steady
yourself while you're getting the knack. When you do go
out, always be conscious of where you walk. Finally,
restrictive clothing probably isn't a good idea while
you're trying to learn...
Ms. Margo writes:
Well, take an emory board or a small bit of sandpaper
and rough up the bottoms so they're not so slick. That
will help to keep the shoe from sliding out from under
you if you get your balance wrong.
Try not to do your first practice on shag carpet - the
heels will catch.
Try not to use your arms to balance you. Practice
walking with your hands held in the small of your back.
This will keep you from looking like a T-Rex in
stilletos.
Take much smaller steps than you normally would. This
will also help to keep your shoes underneath your center
of gravity.
Keep your ankles stong and firm by lifting up until
you're standing on your tiptoes several times a day
(best done without shoes). Or hang your heels off the
edge of a phonebook and lower your heels as far as you
can and then raise up on tiptoe. Don't pull the muscles,
just gently strech.
Take every opportunity to sit down and rest your feet.
Take your escort's arm (even if they don't offer it) and
use them to help balance when going down sidewlks, over
uneven surfaces, or going down stairs.
For three night's before the big occasion, go to bed
with your feet slathered in hand cream and wearing
cotton socks. This will soften up your feet and help
prevent blisters. (Keep a band-aid or two in your bag
just in case. They also come in handy for protecting
against rough seams inside the shoes.)
Throw a pair of flats or sneakers in your car, just so
that if your feet are killing you by the end of the
night, you don't have to climb three flights of stairs
to your apartment in 5" spikes.
How can a person stand in high heels and walk a long time? When I hear
stories about people dancing all night in 6 inches heels I'm always
skeptic.
leatherrose@intex.net (Rikki) writes:
I have found that some people can wear heels "much"
easier than others. I have been wearing heels since the
second grade and never had a problem with heels and now
wear exclusivly 5" or higher. If you are one of those
who are "stilletolly chanllenged" then I suggest
exercise the calf muscles, walk on the balls of your
feet even when barefoot, and try a clunky heel to get
used to the heigth of the heel.
PS: boots might support your ankle a bit!
Karen (karenc@ottawa.net) writes:
The key here is that you have to work at it. It takes
balance, and strength to wear heels consistently. I have
worked myself up to a minimum height of 3.5 inch heels
for everyday wear (boots for winter and shoes for the
office).
Exercise is a good idea to build up the calf muscles. My
personal suggestion to ensure a pleasuable experience is
correct sizing of the shoes. Do not be convinced that
you can't find the write size...women's shoes can be
found in many sizes and widths (which is usually the
hard part). If you are a wide width, do not be satisfied
with B width shoes...go for the D's, Es or whatever it
takes. It will make your goal more obtainable.
Ankle support at first will help. It may be wise to
gradually move from boots to shoes. Pumps provide more
stability than slings or sandals, so work towards pumps
first.
What is PVC?
PVC is an acronym for PolyVinylChloride, a form of plastic. It is
in many ways similar to rubber (latex) but is less stretchy and is
usually sown together instead of being glued or molded. It comes
in many colors, including transparant, but red and black are the
most common.
Isn't tight clothing uncomfortable?
Nope. Correctly designed it's both supportive and shapeenhancing
and doesn't need to be any more restrictive or uncomfortable than
whatever you'd consider 'normal' clothing. Naturally it can be
uncomfortable but then it's worn particularly for the
uncomfortability or to achieve some special effects like a small
waist or to show off the legs or the butt particularly well.
Is it true that wearing rubber can cause the skin to rot?
Yes and no. If you let the skin breathe now and then, and keep a
good hygiene, there should be no problems whatsoever.
Is corsets dangerous to wear?
No more than a scarf or a tie - if it's too tight it may cause
serious damage, but when worn correctly, it's just like any other
garment.
One thing that is very important to remember is, that only very
few people can wear off-the-rack corsets. Just about everyone else
is much better off getting a custom made (and fitted) corset. If
the corset doesn't fit perfectly it will cause problems and
perhaps more or less serious damage.
Do people still wear corsets today?
Sure! - A lot fewer than in the Victorian Age, but there's still
thousands all over the world that wouldn't be caught dead without
the corset laced on, and I'm not talking about fat, old ladies
that needs to keep the fat under control!
How and with what do I polish leather?
margo@netcom.com (Ms. Margo) writes:
Get an old pair of your jeans. Put them on. Sit down on
the floor. Polish the leather on your thigh until it
feels like the jeans are going to catch on fire.
Different types of leather polish differently. Some
types of leather will polish minimally, others will take
a good gloss.
How do I treat black leather so it becomes soft, supple and maintains
its fabulous gleam.
margo@netcom.com (Ms. Margo) writes:
Lexol is the stuff you want. Be careful using it on thin
or garment leathers because while the item is still damp
with Lexol it can be stretched very easily. I ruined a
nice pair of gloves once by putting them on when they
were still damp after being Lexoled. Allow them to dry
well before use.
If you have an item that's very dirty use saddle soap to
clean it before you use the Lexol conditioner. To make
things shine you really have to buff them. Old jeans or
old socks and lots of elbow grease works well.
What material was CatWomans outfit in the Batman II movie made of, who
designed it and can I get one too?
It was designed by Paul Barrett-Brown of The Rubber Mask and
Costume Company... although Andy Wilkes of Syren manufactured all
the suits used for filming. You can contact Syren (address in
supplier list) for details on how to get your own CatWomans
outfit. The material used was latex rubber, polished to a shine.
Did Michelle Pfeiffer really wear high heeled boots in the Batman II
movie, or was it a trick?
No, it wasn't a trick. She did wear boots with no less than 5"
stiletto heels for all her shots, but the stuntwoman doing the
stunts for her wore considerably lower heels. Michelle handled
herself very well indeed on those high heels, running, spinning
and performing martial arts movements flawlessly - to the
amazement of most of the crew. Way to go, Michelle!
Source: Michael Singer "Batman Returns: The Official Movie Book",
page 28.
ISBN 0-553-37030-8
How do I get my latex or PVC garment on?
Rich Greenberg writes:
Baby powder helps here, or if you look at SCUBA diving
wet suit material, one version has smooth nylon on the
inside and latex on the outside.
How do I make my latex or PVC garment shiny?
margo@netcom.com (Ms. Margo) writes:
I firmly believe that one should use pure talc for latex
rather than baby powder, which contains oils. However, I
know that there are plenty of laissez-faire folks out
there who use baby powder and have never had a problem.
For the record, I use only pure talc on my latex. I'm a
bit paranoid since I had a lovely hood that disolved a
hole from being put away without being washed. I have
learned my lesson; you can't cheat when it comes to
caring for latex. I use Black Beauty polish when I want
a serious shine. (Tip: Apply it with one of those large
flat foam brushes that hardware stores sell for painting
moldings.)
I do find that just plain water will remove excess
powder and leave a nice shine. It's cheaper and has no
chemical smell.
What is the best care for latex garments?
Kris Davidson writes:
The following is from a piece of paper the guy at Body
Worship gave me when I made my pur- chase. It is
entirely a direct quote.
TAKING CARE OF YOUR LATEX
WEARING
Before wearing, remove all jewelry as it
may catch and tear your rubber. Ensure
that your body is completely dry. Smooth
a small amount of powder onto your skin
and lightly dust the inside of the
garment. Take your time getting into your
garment. You will quickly learn the best
and easiest technique for dressing. On
sleeved garments that must be pulled on
over the head, we advise that you put one
arm in first then the head and lastly the
remaining arm. Ease the rubber onto your
body, being careful not to grab with
fingernails.
CLEANING
Follow these simple steps and your latex
will look flawless every time you wear
it. Wash in hand warm water with a drop
of liquid hand soap. Clean inside and out
and rinse well in clean water. Hang up to
dry away from direct sunlight and when
complataly dry, dust with a little powder
and store in a cool, dry place.
POLISHING
To bring out the deep glossy shine of the
latex. First wipe off any powder from the
outside with a soft lint free cloth.
Using either "Black Beauty" or
"Armorall", spray a light film onto the
surface and buff to an even shine.
DO'S & DONT'S
- DO USE WATER BASED LUBRICANTS IF
NEEDED.
- DO STORE IN A COOL DARK PLACE.
- DO CLEAN YOUR LATEX AFTER USE.
- DO DRY AND POWDER YOUR LATEX FOR
STORAGE.
- DON'T USE OIL OR GREASE PRODUCTS
(BABY OIL, VASELINE, ETC.)
- DON'T EXPOSE TO STRONG SUNLIGHT OR
U.V. LIGHT.
- DON'T EXPOSE TO HEATERS OR NAKED
FLAME.
- DON'T WASH YOUR LATEX IN ANY TYPE OF
WASHING MACHINE.
- DON'T DRY YOUR LATEX IN ANY TYPE OF
DRYER.
- DON'T USE HARSH ABRASIVES, STRONG
CLEANERS OR SOLVENTS ON YOUR LATEX.
What is the difference between 'gluing' and 'cementing'?
jhurwit@netcom.com (Jeffrey Hurwit) writes:
Glue sticks things together by adhesion. It more or less
flows into the "rough" surface (of even something
smooth, like glass) of whatever it is you want to join,
creating a bond. Examples are using rubber contact
cement to glue wood, paper, etc. (but not rubber), white
glue on anything, superglue (believe it or not), and
most adhesive tapes. The main point about glues is that
the bond is only physical, based on its ability to grip
the surface it's being used to join.
Cement, however, bonds things together chemically. The
simplest kind of cement consists of some material that
is the same as what is to be joined, which has been
dissolved in a solvent. When such a cement is applied to
the surface that's to be joined, the solvent eats into
the surface, dissolving or at least softening a small
portion of it. (The action of the solvent is limited by
the fact that it's already been saturated with the
material dissolved in it.) When the surfaces to be
joined are brought into contact, the softened or
partially liquefied materials flow together, forming a
chemical weld (when all the solvent has evaporated) that
is indeed as strong or stronger than the material which
is being joined. Examples are rubber contact cement when
used on a rubber that has the same chemical base as the
cement (so that the solvent will attack it), such as
wetsuit cement (neoprene in a solvent), tire and
innertube patch cement; also PVC pipe cement, airplane
"glue" or model cement (effective on styrene plastics),
and the specialized plastic cements (the correct one has
to be used for the particular plastic involved)
available at plastics supply houses.
The main point about cements is that, if the right
(chemically compatible) cement is not being used, you
will have only a glue at best, and the bond probably
won't be very strong at all. In order to find the right
cement, the material to be joined must first be
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